Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
~Rumi
~Rumi
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Happiness
One more topic to discuss… Happiness….
Happiness, noun
2. Good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
The state of being happy….
How many can say when I wake up in the morning regardless of the day I had I am happy, and when I go to bed I close my
eyes I am in that state of happiness? Not many. And let me add that that
place of pure happiness in your mind and heart is a great place to be at…
Regardless of any issue that is going on around you, you are able to still be
in that mental state.
I always ask people are you
happy, like really happy and if you’re not why not. Because in all actuality if
you’re not happy you can change that. We all have that power to change and
become a better u. And that’s not saying go and change for someone else you
have to want that for you. You have to want to break that old thing and start
something new. We all are capable of finding pure happiness if we take the time
to understand ourselves. And when you do find it, there is nothing or no one that
will be able to take it from you.
I don’t know how many
people say I don’t know how to be happy… Smh… What they really are saying is
that I am content in where I am and I am going to settle for this state right
now because what reason do I have to change. And when you see that in a person
you usually see that in all in that social circle. Because the term birds of a
feather flock together is very much true… When you surround yourself around people
and situations that aren’t happy it gets harder to see that that is not a
healthy state to be at. It becomes normal for you…
Let me just say this, just
because those people you associate with might be family doesn’t mean it is
always the healthy… * I’ll wait*…
Let me say it one more
time, just because those people you associate with might be family doesn’t mean
it is always healthy…
Yes that is where things
can get a little shaky because everyone is raised in saying blood is thicker than
water. The way I look at it is you can’t pick your family so make sure you pick
your friends wisely. That is not saying you don’t love your family it’s just saying
you don’t have to deal with and surround yourself by the negative that might
come from some family members. Because one bad apple will ruin the bunch… It’s
natural… It only takes one person to say something negative that can either
bring the group into a negative mindset. And that is a continuous cycle until
you know for yourself that that is not what life is about…
There is nothing wrong with
walking away. Walking away is the first step to you becoming a better you and
finding that happiness that we all have in our hearts if you’re ready to have
that peace in your mind and heart…
So now my question is for
people, Are you happy within your life and if you’re not how are going to
change it?
Living Your Past in Your Present
I
want to touch on the subject of people living their past in their present for a second….
We all have moments in our life where we have been faced
with the fact of taking a stand and making a change or just throwing up your
hands and agreeing to circumstances. And when I say agree I mean making excuses
for another. In no way does making excuses benefit you in no such way. It holds
you back… It’s kind of like putting a leash around your neck and following your
owner…
When inside do you tell yourself you are tired and can’t
do it anymore? When do you put an end to the possessiveness of another whether
it physical or mental… The real question is what allows a person to become that
obedient person? At what stage in their life did the rode veer to the left and
was not able to make it back to the straight path?? Whether it is intentional
or non-intentional. When do we as individuals find understanding from the past
to have a better future?
We have to understand that when not dealing with those
stages in life and healing from it we are not able to move forward in a
positive mind… In no way can that be possible… I have listened too many and
found out they are scared to visit that past... To open that chapter of their
life and address it head on… if issues go unaddressed in your life how are you
able to move forward in a positive light… Your past will always have a hold
over your present and future. It will find its way to halt you in your steps of
mental progression if left unaddressed.
I have also come
to see that many believe they will be judged by their past. In no way can
anyone judge another that is a form of negativity… if there was less negativity
coming out of our mouths there would be less issues coming up… The term so many
use, ‘”think before you speak”, but not many do. Not many step out of the box
and think first before they react to someone else’s actions or words. Because 9
times out of 10 those words that you are speaking is the truth for your own
life your living. You live those negative words every day. So of course it
becomes easy for you to say it because it is second nature… hmmm… And yes that
is a horrible place to be at. Not being able to stop think and change your
negative mindset because you have been living it so long.
It takes less energy to be happy then to always have a
negative comment being directed at people. Look inside yourself and see what
really is causing you to think the way your thinking and make that change in
your life to become a better you…
Thursday, April 5, 2012
What does Love mean to you?
So had a very interesting
conversation last night when I was in the mist of doing hair. We got on the topic
of church and went from there. I was
asked what does Love me to me…
Smiled and handing him my phone to read my past post (promoting
on the lowJ)…
He went on to say wow I never looked at things that way… You have some valid points
in what you’re discussing… I’m happy for you… I asked why are you happy for me
and he said I don’t know just seems real good what are talking about… J
From that short 30 minute conversation brought me to the topic
for today. What does Love mean to you?
Really sit and ask yourself that question and see what comes up
in that thought process. For me Love is
a state of one’s mental being. It’s a state of here and now. It’s more of just
an emotion in words. Love has a
deeper meaning to it. But, who is willing to find out what that meaning is? Who
is willing to step out of that box, that comfort zone to really find out and understand
what love is. Who is willing to be patient in that journey? No one can answer
that question but you.
Don’t say you want to find love because that’s what everyone is suppose
to do… For all the people that say they know what Love means many will fall short of understanding it. Many don’t live
in that mental state of Love, so how
are you able to know what it truly is.
From childhood to adult years when has anyone tried to
understand the word Love instead of
just using it…? As a child you learn from your parents what Love is. But in adult age many fall so
short of it? Why is that? Is it because when you go from being a child in need of
the protection of your parent to adulthood and the only one you have to protect
you is you, you really don’t know who you are let alone how to protect yourself…
Protection is a form of stability… A comfort one needs for his
own well being. It’s like a child with their blanket… Take away the blanket and
the child is left crying but with the blanket the child is at ease. That is the
same as with adulthood. Take away that protection and what is left for you…
Nothing… Nothing but fear, misunderstanding, hate, and all the other negative
things that seem to come so easy to many.
As an adult that is the state we start to live in and believe.
Whether we are progressing in society or not we live in that unbalanced state
of mind. And an unbalanced mind is useless...
It holds you back from getting to that ultimate state of positivity. So, when we,
as adults, are able soul search and find, and understand that positivity in
ourselves, we are able to understand better what Love really is for oneself.
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