“Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires
discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice.”

- Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Living Your Past in Your Present


 I want to touch on the subject of  people living their past in their present for a second….

We all have moments in our life where we have been faced with the fact of taking a stand and making a change or just throwing up your hands and agreeing to circumstances. And when I say agree I mean making excuses for another. In no way does making excuses benefit you in no such way. It holds you back… It’s kind of like putting a leash around your neck and following your owner…

When inside do you tell yourself you are tired and can’t do it anymore? When do you put an end to the possessiveness of another whether it physical or mental… The real question is what allows a person to become that obedient person? At what stage in their life did the rode veer to the left and was not able to make it back to the straight path?? Whether it is intentional or non-intentional. When do we as individuals find understanding from the past to have a better future?

We have to understand that when not dealing with those stages in life and healing from it we are not able to move forward in a positive mind… In no way can that be possible… I have listened too many and found out they are scared to visit that past... To open that chapter of their life and address it head on… if issues go unaddressed in your life how are you able to move forward in a positive light… Your past will always have a hold over your present and future. It will find its way to halt you in your steps of mental progression if left unaddressed.

I have also come to see that many believe they will be judged by their past. In no way can anyone judge another that is a form of negativity… if there was less negativity coming out of our mouths there would be less issues coming up… The term so many use, ‘”think before you speak”, but not many do. Not many step out of the box and think first before they react to someone else’s actions or words. Because 9 times out of 10 those words that you are speaking is the truth for your own life your living. You live those negative words every day. So of course it becomes easy for you to say it because it is second nature… hmmm… And yes that is a horrible place to be at. Not being able to stop think and change your negative mindset because you have been living it so long.

It takes less energy to be happy then to always have a negative comment being directed at people. Look inside yourself and see what really is causing you to think the way your thinking and make that change in your life to become a better you…

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