Song of the Day

Musiq Soulchild- ~LOVE~

What does Love mean to you?

 So had a very interesting conversation last night when I was in the mist of doing hair. We got on the topic of church and went from there.  I was asked what does Love me to me…

Smiled and handing him my phone to read my past post (promoting on the lowJ)… He went on to say wow I never looked at things that way… You have some valid points in what you’re discussing… I’m happy for you… I asked why are you happy for me and he said I don’t know just seems real good what are talking about… J

From that short 30 minute conversation brought me to the topic for today. What does Love mean to you?

Really sit and ask yourself that question and see what comes up in that thought process. For me Love is a state of one’s mental being. It’s a state of here and now. It’s more of just an emotion in words. Love has a deeper meaning to it. But, who is willing to find out what that meaning is? Who is willing to step out of that box, that comfort zone to really find out and understand what love is. Who is willing to be patient in that journey? No one can answer that question but you.

Don’t say you want to find love because that’s what everyone is suppose to do… For all the people that say they know what Love means many will fall short of understanding it. Many don’t live in that mental state of Love, so how are you able to know what it truly is.

From childhood to adult years when has anyone tried to understand the word Love instead of just using it…? As a child you learn from your parents what Love is. But in adult age many fall so short of it? Why is that? Is it because when you go from being a child in need of the protection of your parent to adulthood and the only one you have to protect you is you, you really don’t know who you are let alone how to protect yourself…

Protection is a form of stability… A comfort one needs for his own well being. It’s like a child with their blanket… Take away the blanket and the child is left crying but with the blanket the child is at ease. That is the same as with adulthood. Take away that protection and what is left for you… Nothing… Nothing but fear, misunderstanding, hate, and all the other negative things that seem to come so easy to many.

As an adult that is the state we start to live in and believe. Whether we are progressing in society or not we live in that unbalanced state of mind.  And an unbalanced mind is useless... It holds you back from getting to that ultimate state of positivity. So, when we, as adults, are able soul search and find, and understand that positivity in ourselves, we are able to understand better what Love really is for oneself.

Quote of the Day

“Everyone wants to be loved right but not everyone willing to wait for the right love.”

~Pierre Alex Jeanty

Quote of the Day

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us...”

~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

Song of the Day

Mariah Carey- Hero

Listen to the words... Make sense of what is being said...

The Difference between the Physical and Mental Aspects of Love in Relations...

So I came across this topic on numerous occasions in discussions… Love comes up in many different ways. But do we really understand what the meaning of the word Love is? Can we decipher the difference between the physical and mental part of Love… I believe we can…

Let’s first look at the meaning of Love…

Love, noun

1       a (1): strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2): attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests b: an assurance of affection

2:      warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion

3       a: the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration b (1): a beloved person: darling —often used as a term of endearment (2) British—used as an informal term of address

4       a: unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another: as (1): the fatherly concern of God for humankind (2): brotherly concern for others b: a person's adoration of God

5:     a god or personification of love

6:      an amorous episode:

7:     the sexual embrace:

There were many more definitions for the word Love. I’m only going to discuss a few. In my reading of The Art of Loving, by Erich Fromm (must read) it took me 3 weeks to finish. Not because it was a long book but because to understand the words that were written on each page took time to mentally receive.

We have all been in different relationships and some ended for different reasons, but let’s dig into the reason for the short comings. In the begging all was well... It was fun having the companion to be attached to… The newness of it all was exciting… But when there was no more excitement or fun what was left of it? That is the question that should be asked. Was it Love or Lust? Many times it was lust that brought you together not Love. You saw what you wanted and went for it. No questions asked. Many fell into it for Lust then hoped that some kind of Love came from it… But how can you expect Love, the ultimate mental state of oneself, to come about later on when that wasn’t the basis of the joining together in the beginning… It’s a battle that is trying to be fought but never once understood…

Are you following me?

A battle that is fought but never once understood… How can one fight for Love when they really have no idea of what it truly means? To Love is more than just stating it, it’s about knowing and living in that state. If your unable to live in that state of love how is it your suppose to build something based on it if you’re not living in it for oneself everyday. To be able to give love to another you have to be able to give it to oneself. You have to be able to understand it mentally not physically for you. Not understanding the true meaning and being able to give that love without expecting anything in return puts your mind in a state of Lust… It’s like saying if you love me I love you or I give myself to you and you do the same… That is not Love that is Lust… Expecting something in return is not Love, because when you’re truly mentally mature with yourself you don’t expect anything in return but the gift of giving that mature Love and the other being able to receive it on that same level of mental maturity…

In saying that, that’s where the difference in a Lust vs. Love happens… If we all based our relations on mature mental love it wouldn’t break to the physical aspect of lust… If we all are able to become one within ourselves mentally we will be able to give that ultimate mature Love…

                                                         ~S~

Change comes only when you are ready...

So I was told today I should start a blog.. So here I am..

My words are from what I have learned and adapt to my everyday life.. In no way am I saying anyone needs to live by the words.. Some may not understand the reasoning behind what I say but to each is own. I can't make everyone happy. I can only give what was giving to me to try and help another.

We all come to a point in life when we are tired of being tired.. And the question arises are you ready to "Change".. Change you mental state of mind, change your perspective of the ability to find oneself..

It all begins with you.. You are the only one that knows when its time for a change in your life.. No one man can tell you to change, you have to want it for you... When your able to except the fact in your mind and move forward in a positive thought process the things that use to consume your everyday being wont anymore..

There is nothing like going to bed happy and waking up happy... It's an indescribable feeling.. Hope everyone enjoys and receives something from this journey that I so much want to share..

Open your mind so you are able to open your heart and spread the Joy of Love in Life...