So I came across this topic on numerous occasions in discussions…
Love comes up in many different ways. But do we really understand what the
meaning of the word Love is? Can we decipher the difference between the
physical and mental part of Love… I believe we can…
Let’s first look at the meaning of Love…
Love, noun
1 a (1): strong affection
for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2):
attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3):
affection based on admiration, benevolence,
or common interests b: an assurance of affection
2: warm
attachment,
enthusiasm, or devotion
3 a:
the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration b (1): a
beloved person: darling —often used as a term of endearment (2) British—used
as an informal term of address
4 a:
unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another: as (1):
the fatherly concern of God for humankind (2): brotherly concern
for others b: a person's adoration of God
5:
a god or personification
of love
6: an
amorous
episode:
7:
the sexual embrace:
There were many more definitions for the word Love. I’m only going to discuss a few.
In my reading of The Art of Loving, by
Erich Fromm (must read) it took me 3 weeks to finish. Not because it was a long
book but because to understand the words that were written on each page took
time to mentally receive.
We have all
been in different relationships and some ended for different reasons, but let’s
dig into the reason for the short comings. In the begging all was well... It
was fun having the companion to be attached to… The newness of it all was
exciting… But when there was no more excitement or fun what was left of it?
That is the question that should be asked. Was it Love or Lust? Many times it was lust that brought you together not Love. You saw what you wanted and went
for it. No questions asked. Many fell into it for Lust then hoped that some
kind of Love came from it… But how
can you expect Love, the ultimate
mental state of oneself, to come about later on when that wasn’t the basis of
the joining together in the beginning… It’s a battle that is trying to be
fought but never once understood…
Are you following me?
A battle
that is fought but never once understood… How can one fight for Love when they really have no idea of
what it truly means? To Love is more
than just stating it, it’s about knowing and living in that state. If your
unable to live in that state of love how
is it your suppose to build something based on it if you’re not living in it
for oneself everyday. To be able to give love
to another you have to be able to give it to oneself. You have to be able to understand
it mentally not physically for you. Not understanding the true meaning and
being able to give that love without expecting anything in return puts your
mind in a state of Lust… It’s like saying if you love me I love you or I give
myself to you and you do the same… That is not Love that is Lust… Expecting something in return is not Love, because when you’re truly mentally
mature with yourself you don’t expect anything in return but the gift of giving
that mature Love and the other being
able to receive it on that same level of mental maturity…
In saying
that, that’s where the difference in a Lust vs. Love happens… If we all based our relations on mature mental love it wouldn’t break to the physical
aspect of lust… If we all are able to become one within ourselves mentally we
will be able to give that ultimate mature Love…
~S~
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